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To all of Angela’s friends, this is her eldest daughter Marina:
My mom Angela Ronson peacefully passed away early Friday morning in her sleep at the age of 51. Life has a bit of a different outlook than it did when I woke up this morning.
I know 51 sounds young, but my mom was living on borrowed time. My family and I are so grateful we got to have 19 extra years with her after her AVM ruptured and she had her stroke in December 2002. I knew the day would come when I would lose my mom for the second time, I just didn’t expect it so soon.
My mom loved living, and she fought like hell to stay earth side as long as her body would allow her. She was one of the strongest and smartest people I’ve ever known in my life and I’m so blessed and grateful that she brought me into this world. Her wit and tenacity and resilience were thankfully passed on to me, as was her bravery. She stuck around long enough to get to know her granddaughter Layla and to see me and my sister both graduate from high school. These things are more than I ever could have asked for. I wish like hell she could see me graduate college next year, meet my future spouse, and that my future children – her grandchildren – could have met their grandmother. They would have loved her.
My mom loved my sister and I so much and was always so proud of us, even when we struggled. She gave us everything she could even though life was not easy. I am going to miss her dearly.
ngd- When I first worked in the brain injury/disability community in the early ’70s, one of the insights I gained, from those I worked with, was an understanding that people in vegetative states, and those with significant cognitive disabilities, should always be treated as sentient, but are commonly devalued and abused by claiming that they are not people. In the larger society, anything can be done to people so labeled. They can be murdered, raped, neglected, and abused verbally and physically, and completely ignored, without consequence.
Angela Ronson became an exemplar of true self-determination for me a few years ago when I discovered her blog, The Thoughful Vegetable. She was open about her work to develop as a person after a very significant and dangerous brain injury. She saw her experiences as conveying important messages for everyone, not just people with disabilities, and she saw the lessons she was learning on her journey as important to share. I certainly found them so, and it is obvious from the tribute by her family that many valued her wisdom. I want to thank Angela for her wisdom and her communication of that wisdom through our modern networked communication environment. I am sure that Angela’s insights into life and growth will resonate across that network, and influence many people across the future.