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I have a social learning disability. It’s a part of my autism. It’s more than just a nonverbal learning disorder. I’m completely inept when it comes to social things.
I have a social skill score of 56. Reading body language or understanding social rules and skills for me is like someone with a math IQ of 56 doing algebra. I’m not any good and it takes me a long time. There are limits. Some things I’m not going to figure out, no matter how much time I spend on them or how many times people tell me how.
Have you ever had one of those tests in school or therapy where they have the smileys or emojis? You have to write down what that feeling is underneath it. I was never able to get more than 50%. I’m doing good to get more than 25%.
I have a hard time figuring out what people mean even when they put an emoji on a comment or a post. I have learned to use the emojis because I looked up the list of all the ones for the keyboard on my phone. Now I can search for the one that I want by keyword. Even when I’ve looked up ones other people have used, I still have a hard time figuring out what they meant by that.
It’s the same thing with body language. I’ve had all kinds of therapy. I have been taught about body language many times. I still get wrong answers. I just don’t catch the different movements. I don’t see that this movement meant this. I don’t know why that is. I just don’t relate.